The problem with dating single moms
I recently dated a guy for six months and some of my friends felt that the guy was a bad fit because I hadn't introduced him to my child.I was astounded that they'd think I'd introduce my child so early.No matter how you phrase it, or what you think, I'm not dating you, I'm dating you and your kid.And it's my responsibility to understand that as well.To have guys come in and out of my life, pretending to like me so they could get to my mom, then ignoring me when they get her.I would date a woman with a child, but I can not be a part of that child's life until we are getting serious.
Once things get to a bf-gf level, then I will meet your child, with the complete understanding that I'm not just dating you, I'm dating both of you.I need to get to know you and figure out if I even think you will be a good influence on them, on me.Until that criteria is met you won't meet them. I knew him for years and he knew the kids long before we even considered dating one another. I don't resent my mum at all & she will forever have all my love & respect, but you really hit home here.However, I would like to know of the men out there who WOULD in fact date a single mother, what sorts of things would open you up to that prospect (maybe you find independence/strength sexy?) as well as turn you off to it (maybe she's negligent or has perpetual baby daddy issues).
This isn't a subject I see discussed a lot and I'm genuinely curious.