Funny blog about dating
As I minimised the Whats App conversation on my phone, I was filled with dread about what the next evening would bring.
It was a couple of weeks before Christmas and I was going on my first date since the end of my last relationship, two years ago.
To say I was extremely nervous was a severe understatement.
I’d been talking to Robert* for a couple of weeks via Bumble and then Whats App, and all seemed to be going well.
What should have been a lovely couple of dates – a bid to improve my confidence and self-esteem while tackling the shark-infested waters of dating – has turned into a teaching moment for me, and has definitely made me feel a lot more wary about dating in general and more importantly, trusting men. We’ve all heard of sick pranks such as the 'pull a pig' game, which involves a group of men daring each other to hook up with the least attractive woman (in their eyes) in order to gain clout.
As much as I know that I am an awesome person, I’m blindingly aware that the way I look is not what mainstream society considers to be 'beautiful', and that’s something I always have to think about and carry with me.
As plus-size women, we are not afforded the same humanity, care, love and respect as our thinner counterparts.
This can force a monumental drop in confidence and either put us off dating for life or lead us to partake in more casual dating in an effort to prove our worth through sex. ) I had already deleted Robert’s number from my phone, after not hearing from him for a couple of weeks, so I have no way to contact and chastise him for what he did.
Would you be as admiring if someone pulled a prank like this on a plus-size relative – on your sister, perhaps, or your cousin?
Most of all, it’s time to start taking the emotions, perspectives and feelings of fat women seriously.